We're the generation of the online date, sexting and supposed 'hook-up culture' but it turns out that we, that’s millennials and iGen individuals (those born in the 90's) just aren't having that much sex. Tell us about it!

New research has revealed that, compared to, Generation Xers (AKA the parents) are the real Generation Sexers. This just awkward!

Yes, the research found that 15% of young adults (20-24 year olds) have reportedly had no sexual partners since turning 18. This is up from 6% in the previous generation.

More… Sexual inactivity apparently has increased more for women than for men and is different depending on your race, education level and geographical location.

Why? Well, it's likely to do with money, or, lack of it.

Lead researcher of the study, Jean Twenge said that the findings form "part of a general theme of later maturation that's been pretty well-documented".

What we hear is that it doesn't suck enough that we’re less likely to have jobs and are more likely to live with our parents but now all that means we’re less likely to be in the "mood" for sex.

Another possibility is that because we’re glued to our phones we’re missing opportunities to meet people around us – presumably when we’re not glued to the Flirtify app that is - or it could quite simply be that there's so many more ways to entertain ourselves without anyone else these days. Pokémon Go, we’re looking at you!

Glued to your phone? Download the Fliritfy app today – it’s free too! WIN. WIN.

By, Sarah at Flirtify 

First dates can be tricky but they can also be fun and filled with possibility and we want to help you charter these increasingly choppy waters, like somewhat of an unofficial best friend.

So, what the best first date? Well, coffee, of course! I’ve found that going out for a cup of coffee is the ultimate first-date out there.

The reason? Plenty and not one of them is romantic I’m afraid, because first dates aren’t about romance. Instead, in an age where singles meet either online or through a dating app, first dates are more about a connection and finding out if you have one.
Essentially, a first date has become a prelude to the more romantic, second date.

So if you’re ever stumped on where to go I suggest you grab a coffee. Here are nine reasons why…

1. It’s Inexpensive
Even a coffee shop in convent garden will – probably – cost you less than a trip to the cinema to sit in silence and pretend to like sweet popcorn, or a game of bowling only to find your date is incredibly overly competitive and can’t remember your name.
A first date, while they can be fun, should be low investment – literally. So, being smart about all this, it makes sense to consider that a low-investment date requires a low monetary value.

2. You Can Tell A Lot About A Person From Their Coffee Order

How do they speak to the barista? Do they request their beverage be “extra hot” or have a certain milk preference, or low fat? Do they not drink coffee at all? A coffee order says a lot about a person’s personality, and by the time they order, you can at least tell a little about them.

Ps. An extra-large custard cream is always a positive ;)

3. Perfect Conversation
You’re sitting at a small table with nothing but very two hot beverages between you - what else is there to do than chat? Nothing. Perfect.
Use the opportunity to get to know this stranger a little better.

4. You Won’t Get Drunk 

This can have many benefits – trust me!
Is drunk you too honest? An over-sharer? A dancer? Does drunk you say things you don't really mean or do things you don't want to do? Coffee VS cocktails, coffee every time! Instead of ending the night telling them everything there is to know about your no good ex you can leave feeling energised, happy and have a spring in your step at the possibility of something new.

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5. It's Easy To Get Out
He’s boring? Too tall? Too short? Not what you had in mind? No problem, a coffee doesn’t take too long to consume (you can always order a small if it’s that bad), finish the coffee, let them know you’re all done, and get out of there!

6. Coffee Goodness
“Coffee cures many ailments” according to a study from New York University. Participants – a whole 430,000  of them - found that adding just two cups of coffee to your diet results in a 44% lower risk of cirrhosis, an incurable liver disease which is usually the result of drinking too much booze (see point 4). So by grabbing coffee, no matter how bad your date you’ll sip soundly knowing you’re helping stay healthy.

7. Casual
Heals? Lipstick? ID? No. No. No.
Coffee is casual, I’m not saying look like a slob but there really is no need to dress up. You can just head over to the coffee shop pre-or-post work and grab a coffee.
If it's cold outside, order something warm and sit back and relax. If it's warm, head out on the patio with an ice coffee. Easy peasy.

8. There's Great People Watching
Whether you go to a local shop, a chain, or one that has chairs stuck to the wall, you're bound to do see some characters. I love people watching.

9. They Work With Your Schedule
See point 7 because unlike bars or restaurants, coffee dates can happen at any time of day. You can do it before work, after work or during lunch if you’re both close by (ahh the joy of the location feature).

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We can't wait for this weeks installment of First Dates!

Last week’s First Dates taught us why it is NEVER a good idea to go on a blind double date. Why? In case your date ends up fancying your best mate which is something Croydon club promoters Josh and Jack found out the hard way.

Hair slicked back and twin suits to boot (by accident apparently), the pair were ready for some action.
And when blonde horse rider Morgan walked in, both of their eyes lit up - but it appeared like she and Josh had instant chemistry. 

It was when restaurant owner Fred turned up to lead them to their tables that the full awkwardness was revealed...

Fred said: “Jack and Morgan, you are going to be together.”
Morgan couldn’t help a gasp: “Are you joking?”
Jasmine was confused: “Are we swapping?”
The blonde tried to bag a date with Josh, saying: “It would be awkward to swap now.”

Josh smirked at her and agreed, but Fred said: “You’re not swapping; this is what it’s meant to be – Jack and Morgan.”

When Morgan and Jack were seated, she tried to explain: “I just presumed because the way he made eye contact with me was like, oh, maybe he knows…”

Awkward? Only a tad…

She had also joked to Josh’s date, saying that she was with her man (which we think was just down right rude if were honest!)

And even Jack’s date Jasmine thought that he was more suited to the blonde horse rider.
Can we go back and set up Jasmine and Jack please? But when Jack and Morgan were asked whether they’d see each other again, the blonde surprisingly said that she’d give him “another go”. She added:  “There’s more to you than meets the eye”.

Josh wasn’t convinced, saying that Morgan was “left hungry” and that she had really wanted him so you can imagine our happiness when it turned out that even after taking both of their numbers, she ended up on a second date with <drum roll please> Jack!

What happens when you put thousands of good-looking athletes in one place for a few weeks, say Rio? You inevitably get lots of flirting, hook ups and romance!

Since the start of the Olympics in Rio there has been a dramatic spike in swipes and matches near the Olympic village - where the athletes have been living.It’s reported that dating matches are up 129% and swipes are up 69% in the area around the Olympic village – so that’s what they get up to out of the pool!

Team USA swimmer Ryan Lochte has openly discussed having a dating profile and 'talking with a couple [women]'. Instagram account Sports Swipe has collected a few profiles of Olympians and showed what Lochte's verified profile looks like… you’re going to look, don’t pretend :)

Athletes are apparently hooking up inside the Olympic village too, ‘many of the athletes prefer to meet other athletes on dating apps because that's easier, and then they do group dates with other athlete friends,’ a source revealed. “It's pretty intense … some athletes wait until after their competition [to party], and then others have hook-ups between practices because they say sex actually helps them reach for the gold.”

Yemi Apithy, a French-Beninese fencer, told CBS News he downloaded an app "just for distraction” and “we meet people from a lot of nationalities.” When a reporter asked if he had found anyone, he wasn’t shy and replied, “For sure. I am a pretty boy.” Wow!

Ready. Set. Date.

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Bad fashion dies hard.

According to the Wall Street Journal, cargo shorts - dubbed outdated and decidedly uncool - are causing strife in marriages and relationships this summer!

One cargo short devotee shared in the study that he once had 15 pairs of cargo shorts and now hides his one remaining pair from his wife, who took the others to the charity shop AKA known as the bin we suspect.

Where it all began…
We begin in the '90s, when men were from Mars and women were from Venus. That was the decade of the cargo short — a trend that has lived an inexplicably long life thanks to the boys who grew older but hung onto their teenage style. Men, it seems, have trouble letting go!

"Those teenagers are now married, and they don't get rid of their clothes. They don't evolve," says professor at Drexel University, Joseph Hancock who also wrote his PhD thesis on cargo pants!!!

How do you feel about cargo shorts? 
Well, to see how a pair of cargo shorts can make or destroy the look of a person, here's a comparison to help you make up your mind…

Liam Hensworth

President Barack Obama

Zac Efron 

Leonardo DiCaprio 

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Pokémon GO has taken the world by storm.

Have you been on social media and seen lots of Pokémon memes? We sure have and we want in.

What is Pokémon GO you ask?
Where have you been!!! It's an app that ties up our teenage love of Pokemon with the gaping hole left after Candy Crush fell out of favour - essentially it'll be the big new game everyone plays on the bus to work and in the loo at work when they're meant to be doing actual work.
But some people are using it to find love!
Hopefully in the not so distant future we can bring you some love-ly news about how two strangers fell in love through their mutual love of Charmander, however for now it’s worth remembering that any app that tracks your location can be dangerous, if you're somewhere – shall we say – that you shouldn’t be. 
Queens, NY resident Evan Scribner learned that the hard way when his girlfriend found out that his he had been hanging out with his ex, thanks to the app's geolocation feature.
He said, "She saw that I had caught a Pokémon while at my ex's house" 
Scriber's girlfriend hasn't spoken to him since, awks!
FACT: The game has already been installed more times than Tinder. Yes really!
Go get em! Love Flirtify x

Summer truly is the season for fun, flirting and frolics. To keep you sizzling all summer find someone to share the long summer evenings with now with Flirtify ❤️

Love is synonymous with summer. Summer lovin’ had me a blast as they say… as the temperature rises outside, it seems that a lot of people start to enjoy the dating process, with more fun outdoorsy dates and chance meetings with new and interesting people. Moods are lifted and whilst Christmas and New Year are all about family and friends, summer can be about whomever you want it to be (exciting times!). 

Dating is certainly an all-year-round phenomenon and you know we are all for starting the conversation regardless of the temperature outside! But we do think that there is something to be said for finding romance in summer, and here’s why… 

1. More people are out
At the first sight of sunshine, we all can’t help but lose our outer layers and head for the nearest beer garden – it’s a natural human response. As more people leave the safety of their sofas and box-sets behind, we naturally begin planning the summers events and with it begin the chance of meeting new and exciting people! 

2. People are happier
You can’t help but smile on a beautiful sunny day, and these positive summer vibes are great for being more up for new things and meeting new people. 

Professor Holick, of the University of Michigan said, “Being outside readjusts your outlook. The sun represses melatonin levels, making you feel alert, open to new ideas, and willing to put yourself in unfamiliar territory.” 

Spontaneity is in the air and there are so many new adventures to be had…

3. Fun date ideas
Leave your mittens home and ditch the scarves, forget ice-skates and dinner dates and think BBQ, picnics and bike rides! Rediscover where you live with food or a drink at a new location. It needn’t be expensive though – long walks or backyard parties come with minimal costs so you can keep mingling!

4. More time to date
Summer means more daylight hours which means that you can leave work with hours of daylight to enjoy your dates, rather than not seeing the light of day.

5. Summer confidence
Suns outs, guns out! It’s tough to feel attractive wearing more layers than an Eskimo all wrapped up in your scarf, hat and gloves! Summer means beautiful summer dress and shorts. ‘Tis the season to flatter your best features!

Although these are all great reasons why summer is a great time to date – the most obvious reason is that there really is no time like the present. 

Benching is the new dating term you need to know about (it has nothing to do with benches and it’s even more annoying than ghosting).

A way to perfectly describe all the dates that had disappeared from our lives without reason or notice?

Well, there’s a new way to describe the massive idiot in your life who you’re interested in but who stops actually seeing you, hanging out with you or committing to dates - but and here the best bit - continues to text, tweet, or snapchat you. Rude!

Been benched? We hear you!

think of team sports. When you’re benched, you’re not actually playing. But you’re still on the team, ready and waiting for when the coach decides to bring you back into play.

The problem isn’t new; you may have heard it before from parents being described as ‘led on’.

It’s horrible, because there’s no way to have a clean break or move on. Just when you’re giving up, you’ll get a non-committal but flirty text appears.

How to spot one... 
These people will make the minimum effort required to keep you as an available option - which often means no face-to-face contact - just frequent texts about plans to meet up that never end up happening.

It can be deeply frustrating and disappointing, especially if you really like them!

So if you do suspect you’re being benched; meetups become less frequent, texts go unanswered, but they’ll suddenly get in touch just as you’re about to give up then our advice is to call them on it. Ask why your plans never work out or give yourself a clean break and move on - you deserve better after all!

Love, Flirtify - Summer Just Got Hotter.

And they're all free!
Absence makes the heart grow fonder – apparently. Or maybe it’s forgetful depending on what you believe, but whatever that is, one thing can’t be denied. That long distance relationships are tough.
It’s a position that more and more of us are finding ourselves in; different unis, career goals, extortionate rent hikes, commuting costs, family and yes, online dating are just some of the reasons.

So what can we do?
Well, thank goodness for technology!!!!  Technology is making long distance love slightly easier, with some quirky new ways to keep in touch. Here’s a list of some of the best apps out there…

Available on iOS and Android
Couple is more than just a messaging service (cliché we know, but it is); it creates a private social network between the two of you. The app allows you to send your loved one messages, photos and videos as well as setting up a shared calendar for you to sync events and create to-do lists together – so you can make the most of the time you do spend together! The USP is in its interactive features, such as ‘Live Sketch’ that lets the two of you to draw pictures together, and ‘Thumb Kiss’ – when each user places their thumb on the same space on their touch screen – nawwww! Both phones will vibrate as if you’ve just kissed.

Available on Android
Much like Couple, Without allows you to connect with only one other person – sorry serial daters! The app has a feature which allows you to tap a button and send your partner a cute message, and updates you on what the weather’s like in your loved one’s location. The best bit is Without counts how many days the two of you have been apart by using your phone’s Bluetooth and detects when you are near each other. Imagine sitting in the station waiting for them to arrive on the train and seeing them edge closer and closer – we’re excited just thinking about this.

Available on iOS and Android
With HeyTell you can send high quality voice recordings anywhere around the world - for free. It’s quicker than a text message and uses less data than sending an email. You can record messages for one another and listen to your partners voice anytime. Ideal if you’re in completely separate time zones, meaning Skype calls are out of the question unless you like the 4am I’ve had no sleep look!

Available on iOS and Android
Goodness no, we do not mean the Ann Summers dating app… instead and despite the name, Rabbit is perfect for couples who love a good Netflix binge. The site allows you to create a room where you can invite up to 25 people inside and video chat – so Skype you’re thinking. But Rabbit’s USP lies in its ability for those inside a room to share a screen in real time, letting couples watch their favourite shows together – date night sorted! No matter how many miles away, Netflix prevails!

My Day
Available on iOS and Android
If you’re like us and instantly start counting down until the next time then My Day is perfect! It’s a countdown app that lets you keep track of special events either of you may have coming up – anniversaries, weekend dates, holidays together –  My Day counts right to the second until the day you set. The app enables push notifications for you to get a reminder about what’s coming up, perfect if one of you is a little forgetful.

Nothing should get in the way of true love, find someone today with Flirtify x
‘If you’re truly in love or committed to your relationship, it’s much easier to stay faithful’ - seems pretty obvious, right?! 

A new study from researchers at New York University and Rutgers University found that when people are trying to protect the sanctity of their monogamous relationship, they will internally conduct what we’re calling a ‘perceptive downgrade’ of potentially attractive people – put simply – someone you may have considered attractive when you were single suddenly becomes less attractive now that you’re in a good relationship.

It’s almost sweet in a way.

The science
Researchers who carried out the study said, “People in relationships perceived threatening attractive individuals as less attractive than did single participants” “The effect was exacerbated among participants who were highly satisfied with their current relationships.”

Why do those in happy relationships downgrade people that their single counterparts would probably find more attractive? 
It’s a natural reaction, a psychological way of protecting our relationships. If you only have eyes for your significant other, you really only have eyes for your significant other. This psychological guard can protect your relationship and prevent eyes straying elsewhere if you’re deeply in love with your partner.

That’s the good news, now for the sad news…
Unfortunately, the effect is reversed if you’re unhappy with your relationship. If you’re not happy or feeling loved in your current relationships you’re much more likely to agree with your single friends that that guy or girl is pretty good looking.

This got us thinking; do some people not only downgrade attractive people, but also treat them differently to avoid giving off the wrong signals? Perhaps! And what about celebrities? For some of us, Ryan Gosling will be attractive no matter how happy we are in our current relationship – and who can blame you!?

Science can’t explain everything all of the time we guess!

Flirtify x