Like us, men don't always say exactly what they're feeling, so any signs that will help us to figure them out are welcome here!

In the early stages of a new relationship (like when you first meet an online date) we can learn a lot from their body language. Look out for the following signs to get a sense of what he's thinking...

His pupils are huge
Either you're in a super-dark place, or this subtle signal means he's attracted to you. Dilation is a brain response that occurs when you like and are attracted to something or someone.

Say cheese
According to research guys stop showing their teeth when they smile around the age of 5 — unless they're really happy! He may not show off his toothy grin while casually flirting, but on an awesome date when you’re enjoying yourselves it could be a giveaway.

He smiles above the mouth
Real smiles go above the mouth: they lift the forehead and give you slightly squinty eyes. If his smile involves his whole face, it means you're genuinely affecting him… in a good way

He licks his lips (not in a creepy way)
It’s science! When you're attracted to someone, your mouth produces extra saliva, so you naturally lick his lips or press them together. (Slower is creepy and we recommend you make your excuses!)

He locks eyes with your face — not your eyes
In an age where leaving our phones alone for 5 minutes makes us anxious, this is a pretty BIG sign! Eye contact though can make us uncomfortable so there’s a new rule: If he spends about 80 percent of your interaction looking from your eyes to your nose and lips, he's into you.

Deep breath
No shock that guys breath just like we do. But when he subconsciously takes a deep breath — he'll pull in his stomach and puff out his chest — it's a subconscious way to make his upper body look broader and his waist look smaller, two qualities that make him look more fit and (from an evolutionary perspective) more desirable.

Sitting with their legs open
Awkward but you need to know! This body position exposes his man parts - it's a vulnerable position that could mean he's willing to put himself out there (literally and emotionally) to get to know you.

When he holds your hand, he presses his palm against yours
Ahh fully fledged hand holding, if this doesn’t signify a desire to connect nothing does! The same goes for interlocking fingers although an arched palm means he's afraid, worried or maybe holding something back.

Pointed toes
Without our feet the fight-or-flight response isn’t really relevant. This kicks in when you're in danger largely controlled by the unconscious mind — and can be very telling in social interactions.  

"The feet tend to point where the heart wants to go!"
  
Of course, timing is super important in interpreting the feet: If you're talking to a guy who seems interested, you touch his arm, and then see his feet angle away from you, the context says he's no longer interested.

He walks beside you
If he's constantly two steps ahead of you, this signifies he's more concerned about himself than about you. Unless he's leading you through a scary or crowded space of course.

http://visual.ons.gov.uk/where-do-single-people-live-in-england-and-wales/?utm_source=blog&utm_medium=blogger&utm_campaign=single-stats

We’re complete suckers for stats here at Flirtify – especially when the figures suggest that over half of people in the UK are single! But, what do the numbers really mean, where do these people live and how long can we play with the snazzy interactive map before we have to get back to work?!
According to a report from The Office for National Statistics (ONS) based on responses from the 2011 Census, more than 51% of the UK population are single – a rise from 47% in 2001.
Across the country, the concentration of single people varied massively from 92% in Headingley (Leeds) compared to just 29% in Greater Marlow (Buckinghamshire); whilst in Scotton (Richmondshire), 85% of single people were male!
Now before you single ladies all head to the North Yorkshire village on the hunt for love, we should mention a few things… most notably, that the definition of ‘single’ in this report is anyone who is not married. So, that includes those who are divorced, widowed or are shacked up but unmarried (sorry!) In other words, a cohabiting couple in Manchester who have lived together for 5 years and list themselves as ‘In a Relationship’ on Facebook, would be classed as single. Furthermore, that haven of single men in Scotton is actually home to the British Army’s largest garrison of soldiers in the world - so, the figures are slightly skewed! (We’re still going though…)
In actual fact, if you consider cohabiting couples as not being single, then the real figures are below 40%! However, that’s still a lot of single folks all looking for the same thing – so what are you waiting for?
http://visual.ons.gov.uk/where-do-single-people-live-in-england-and-wales/?utm_source=blog&utm_medium=blogger&utm_campaign=single-stats
Have a gander at the map here and find local singles with Flirtify, here! “Here, here!!!”




















It's nearly that time of year again! 

Valentines falls on a Saturday this year, which, in our humble opinion, is the most perfect of all days. Why? 

Well you don’t have to worry about waking up early for work the next day and more importantly, you have the whole day to woo and serenade your date! Perfect!

If you’re in charge of planning the most romantic day of the year for you and your date, you’re in luck! You’ll be spoilt for choice with all London has to offer, but we're scrapping the idea of a candle lit dinner and the exchanging of cheesy cards and making it even more memorable with our list of alternative dating ideas for you and your valentine to enjoy…

Dinner in the Dark
There are several places around London which offer dining in pitch black. Whether you wear a mask or the entire restaurant is unlit, this experience should heighten all your other senses, giving you a feeling of intimacy. Now this is something you could set up yourself at home, but then you’d be at a huge risk of injury and embarrassment. Leave it to the professionals!


Chocolate Workshop
Valentine’s Day would be nothing without chocolate. Surprise your date with a chocolate making workshop then enjoy over candle light and a glass of fizz.

Museums
Lots of spectacular London museums open particularly late on Saturdays and they are usually quiet. Slowly wander the endless corridors hand in hand whilst impressing your date with knowledge of the arts this Valentines. 


Climb the O2
Not one for the faint at heart but if your date is up for an adventure, this is a great date. Get your heart pumping and take in the breath-taking views of the London sky-line as you climb over the O2 arena.


The London Eye
Day or night, the London Eye is the place to be for spectacular panoramic views across the city. Why not enjoy each others company for half an hour with a private pod and make it extra special by surprising your date with chocolates and champagne.


Cocktail class
Everybody loves a Tom Collins, magnificent martini or the quintessential cosmo so why not try a cocktail making class? It's no secret that London has some of very best cocktail bars and plenty offer classes - maybe you could invent a whole new one and name it after your date?! Ahhh


Thames Speed Boat 
More style, more speed, more swarve? Maybe! Try the exciting Thames Speed Boat ride for a more exciting high powered date guaranteed to be exhilarating and unforgettable. There are also Sunset Speed-boating dates available too if you want to include some of the traditional romance.

London Zoo
After all who doesn't love the zoo?! Stroll hand in hand chatting about the animals, and enjoy a picnic complete with a flask of warm hot chocolate - after all it's cold out there. Why not stop by the souvenir shop on your way out for small gift to remember the day by - it’ll have sentimental value and always remind you both of an amazing day.

Edible Cinema  
This is exactly what it says on the tin! Enjoy your favourite cult classics and the scenes that have stolen our attention through taste…. from an Angelica infused gin atomiser to a fuzzy lollipop, this is the perfect date for anyone who loves their films and their food.

It's not too late to find a date this Valentines! 

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AKA Chocolate cake with gooey center!

So you've decided to cook for your date.....that's alot of pressure. 

Simply put, we don't think it wouldn't be Valentines without Chocolate, so we're sharing our easy to make, but and very impressive looking Chocolate Fondant recipe with you so you can be sure to impress - even if you do burn the main course!


Ingredients:

  • 200 grams of dark chocolate
  • 120 grams of butter
  • 4 eggs
  • ½ a cup of sugar
  • 2 table spoons of flour
  • 6 table spoons of Nutella
Instructions:

Start with the all important preheating of the oven, it needs to be 180°C or 375°F. 

Coat the inside of six ramekins with butter and cut a wax paper circle to fit in the bottom of each - drawing around them using the ramekins first helps, especially if they're heart shaped for the occasion!

Melt butter and chocolate together in a glass bowl or a pan over boiling water - make sure the bottom of the glass doesn't touch the water at any point.

 













Whisk eggs and sugar in a separate bowl then add your melted chocolate and flour - give it a good stir before pour into ramekins. 

Finally add a teaspoon of Nutella to the center of each and bake for 10 minutes exactly! 















 Voila! Here it is! Your ooey -gooey Chocolate Fondant. 















 All that's left to do is enjoy x
There are plenty of reasons why it’s good to be unattached on February 14th – we know it’s a little clichĂ© but bear with us. Here are some of our favourites…

No pressure
People have very different expectations for Valentine’s Day so being unattached means you’ll avoid any pressure and don’t have to worry about whether or not you should buy your date a gift (or buy one and keep it in reserve just in case they get you one -we have done this!)

You can host an anti-Valentines day party
Since the film Valentine’s Day, we’ve wanted to do this! Go with a "Love Hurts" theme and use all black decorations. No flowers, no cards, no candy… just good food, good friends, and good drinks!

A great excuse to spend time with friends
Whether you plan a Valentine’s-appropriate chick flick or an alternative horror, Valentine’s Day can be a great day to spend with friends. If you’re a little disappointed to be missing out on a candlelit meal why not host a semi-formal dinner party? Being single doesn’t mean you have to go without fizz!

Make the day all about the things you love
If you’re not keen on roses but you love daisies treat yourself. Stay in and indulge in the guilty pleasures you don’t get enough of: your favourite foods, a film, a bubble bath or a new book. Pamper yourself, guilt-free.

You’re going to save money
It’s been revealed that the average British man spends £40 on Valentine’s Day - pricey! Instead, count your financial blessings and buy those chocolates half price on the 15th?

You can spend it with your Hollywood crush
When you’ve got a Ryan Gosling movie marathon lined up who wants to go out? Why not invite over your friends so you can swoon together.

The possibilities are endless
The future is open to endless beautiful possibilities.

Choose hope and Flirtify for the future!
We’d like to imagine that every date our members go on will be fantastic, but of course when meeting anyone new, you need to put your safety first - like the old idiom says 'it's better to be safe than sorry'.


Here are a few tips to keep in mind…


Trust your instincts
Our instincts are most of the time, spot-on. So if you’re chatting to someone online and a little voice is telling you ‘something’s isn’t right,’ then the chances are something isn’t right. Best thing to do… politely disengage from the conversation and move on.


Be honest

When it comes to creating your profile, be honest about who you are and what you’re looking for. You’re more likely to meet someone who you have lots in common with and avoid any unwelcome surprises when it does come to your first date – no one wants to confess to not really being an astronaut or part of Mi5! #awks


Keep control
The great thing about online dating is that you have complete control over how fast the relationship moves. So make sure that you totally trust who you’re talking to before you give them your phone number, email etc.



Protect yourself

Check your privacy settings and be careful not to divulge too much personal information - even if you’re chatting with someone who it feels like you’ve known forever.


Background check

Don’t be afraid to search online for someone - if you met over Facebook, use Google’s “search by image” feature. Clever we know, but you’re not just being nosey - you’re checking for more than one Facebook profile with the same photo.


Avoid talk of finances
Avoid talk of finances. There is no reason why you should ever disclose any financial information to someone you’re chatting to online. If someone asks you for your bank details or if they can borrow money, they are almost certainly a scammer – avoid them like the plague!


... and when the time comes to meet in person


Meet in a public place
Even if you’ve been chatting for ages and completely trust your date, it’s still a wise idea to meet in a public place. Oh and don’t forget to let a friend know where you’re going and who you’re meeting.


Transport
Don’t rely on your date for transport or give them your home address. Remember to keep a taxi number handy should you need it and plan your route. 


Plan your escape!
We’d like to imagine that every date our members go on will be fantastic, but just in case this one isn’t make sure you’ve planned your escape route – and we don’t mean the bathroom window! Instead get a friend to call you half an hour into the date to check that everything’s OK, if it’s not then that will make it easier to make your excuses and leave.


Charge your phone
Do not leave the house unless your phone has a full battery and you can contact someone should you need to. 


Drink responsibly
We all know we should, but when you’re meeting someone new this is really important. Alcohol hampers our judgement so it’s important to be sensible and remain in complete control.



Voila, your safety covered!







So you’ve been chatting to someone, you’re interested and you think the feeling maybe mutual, but now what? Meeting in person perhaps is crucial step... but just how long should you wait before you suggest or agree to it?

Meeting up almost immediately

There are those who like to meet as soon as possible, especially if you live locally to one another. This can be done very safely – you know the sort of thing we’re talking about, a daytime coffee in a local cafĂ©, perfect for deciding if you’d like to get to know each other a little better.

The advantages are simple; you can learn more about someone within the first 5 minutes of meeting them than you can from hours of carefully constructed emails. Planning to grab a quick coffee also gives you less time to get anxious or self-conscious because there’s less build up. Then there’s your finances – coffee is pretty inexpensive, certainly compared to a more traditional dinner date, meaning you could meet lots of dates without the expense!

Waiting for a sign

The majority of us choose to wait it out until we're sure that the other person is interested before suggesting to meet up.Sharing information about your hobbies, plans, likes and dislikes over email will help you to discover more about each other, and if you have things in common.

It can take time, but it may be worth waiting if you want some assurances before suggesting to meet in person. The only downside is that the longer the ‘getting to know you’ part is, the bigger the potential disappointment if when you meet there’s no chemistry.

Just how long is too long?

Circumstances, distance and other factors all play a part, but the main thing is that you're happy about the possibility of meeting in person. If distance is an issue though you could talk on the phone, or Skype one another to help you decide whether to overcome the obstacles. 

Connect with someone new today at Flirtify.